We all want to look out best. But most of us don’t want to feel pressure to dress up or change our style. If you’re keen to make a good impression, then chances are you’ll carefully consider your outfit ensemble and your makeup style. You might even make sure your hair salon appointment is slotted in just before the big date. These things might be considered normal and even part of the fun of going out. But have you ever felt pressure to take things even further?
Buying A New Outfit
Lots of us love the chance to buy a new dress or skirt for a date. Maybe you’ve already spotted a top that you want to wear? Have you ever felt pressure to buy designer-wear just for a date with someone though? If you feel pushed into wearing big brands when you don’t have a big budget, it’s worth thinking about why. You should never feel you’re not as good as someone who can afford luxury items. Is your date really that special that you need to get into debt?
Even if you wear something from the back of your closet, you are still you – that means you’re still the most special person on that date. Looking your best is one thing. Looking like you’re going to be in debt for a really long time is another. Instead, take a look at some of the items you already wear. Think about which wardrobe favorites make you feel elegant and comfortable. If it’s such a special date, then chances are your comfort is more important.
Buying New Cosmetics
OK, so most of us are guilty of adding to our enormous collection of lipsticks and shadows on a monthly basis! But if you look through that collection, you’ll see there are variations on a theme. You know which colors suit you, and you know which products you enjoy wearing most. You’ve got your nudes, your naturals, your work tones and your glams. Do you really want to create something completely new for one date? Is it really you?
Why not treat yourself to a new collection of lipsticks or shadows instead? When you shop for lipstick, you probably stick with the same intensities and finishes, regardless of the shade. If you’re determined to buy something for this date, make sure it’s not a one-off. Consider all the other non-date occasions when that lippy will be perfect for you. A girls’ night out, or that upcoming wedding might be good options. Just don’t stray too far from the true you.
If you’re really nervous about this date, it’s easy to start doubting yourself. You’re lacking confidence, feeling shy, and it’s making you fret. But if you really think the answer is to make radical changes to your appearance, then you might need to stop and relax for a bit first. There are plenty of ways to cover any problems without going under the knife!
We all want brilliant white teeth. Some of us are able to have them whitened every year. If you really think your teeth aren’t good enough for the person you’re going out with, though, then it’s time to consider why you think that way. We’re all different. Some people have perfect teeth. Others have perfect hair. But all of us have imperfections. They make no difference to your personality, character, or charm.
Yes, we’ve all worried that we’ve gained a dress size or two. But you are you. Surely that’s what this person is interested in? Your fabulous figure and dazzling smile are just the bonuses! Don’t let anyone pressure you into making any changes to your body or appearance. You really are perfect, just as you are. For a confidence boost, remember to correct your posture and smile.
Is your date a bit of a brainiac? It’s not just the pressure of looking good that can cause us a lot of worries! Sometimes we can feel a bit out of our depth intellectually. Don’t feel pressured into reading an encyclopedia the night before your big date. Just remember, the things you’re passionate about and interested in are just as valid as theirs. Don’t be afraid to talk about them. They’re important to you and make you who you are. Any date should find it just as interesting and stimulating.
Don’t ever feel embarrassed or ashamed to admit you don’t know something or haven’t heard of it. Ask some questions about it. Most of us love it when people are interested enough in our passions that they want us to talk more about them. Conversation is a really important part of any big date. If you’re really worried about talking, why not write down a few questions you could ask to keep the chatter going?
So What’s Your Plan?
If your big date is really making you nervous and under pressure, then think carefully about what you want to do. You can always cancel. You can also put it off until you’ve had time to prepare and relax about it all. Or you could plan what you want to wear, and start getting ready!
All big dates are nerve-wracking. After all, you want to make a good impression so that a second date might be offered. And if you really like your date, then that can make everything even more important. Start preparing for your big date the night before. Try on a few outfits and pick the one that is both comfortable and well-suited to your style. Don’t try to be someone you’re not – nobody can keep up an act consistently for very long. You are who you are, and you should always be proud of that.
Next, layout the makeup you want to use. You can also apply a trial run to check you’re happy with the look. Don’t go over and beyond what you would wear on any other night out. If you bumped into your girlfriends, you want them to recognize you and not wonder why you look so radically different.
Finally, get some sleep. Relax. It’s going to be a great date because it’s you.